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Oct 9, 2012

A Birthday Post

I want to apologize up front to all my other kids. I said I wasn't going to do any birthdays this year, but yesterday was Baby Doll's birthday. She turned 2.

She really isn't a baby any more. I just witnessed her yelling loudly and possessively over some modeling clay to Teach, "MINE!" She was right, of course, it was hers, but there is no way we were going to just give it to her like she expected.

She is a very strong-willed little girl. Some would say a definite red personality. Usually she is sweet and helpful, but not always. I need to get over the fact that she is more than likely my last child. Oh, I don't mean to complain! Not at all! I have been incredibly blessed in my ability to have babies. Maybe that is why I am having so much trouble accepting the fact that I am nearly 48 and my child-bearing days are rapidly coming to a close. There is still a part of me that feels 29. (Not the part that drags itself out of bed every morning...)

I'm getting a lot of flack from my kids because I still haven't weaned Baby Doll. I did give away the high chair and all of my baby clothes. I know there is much to look forward to, but I can't help mourning the fact that I just don't have a baby any more.

Tell me, how did you deal with this major change? That day when you suddenly realized there would be no more babies?


Anonymous said...

I only had one child and it was not an easy delivery..we were thrilled beyond belief to have just one, when told we were not going to be able too..Not everyone can have babies like you have been extremely fortunate to do so..We miss her she lives far from us so we must travel a long long distance but it is worth it..She will always be my baby doll even though she is all grown up and an adult..For major life transitions one has to accept that God has the plan man just awaits his signals and his teachings, that is the way I have always been..How blessed you have with your sweet family, being able to be their Mother and teach them your faith and how to live a character, spiritual moral and being loved life, not many in this USA have had that indeed..May God continue to bless you and when you get the urge for more babies, hold one from your church and you will be very happy, since you are a loving sweet Mother and human being!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Natalie Ockey said...

Try having a baby with a heart condition and being told that your future children have a 1 in 4 chance of a similar (or worse) condition.

That took the sting out of it (and expedited our decision in a hurry!


Debby@Just Breathe said...

She is adorable! Well my husband left me two years after I had my second baby so that kinda stopped the baby thing for me. We did however get back together six years later and he just didn't want anymore. So I decided that I would have to wait until I have grandchildren. Well I'm waiting and my 31 & 33 year old children are not making that wish come true! So until that time I just enjoy my younger friends little ones.

Shell said...

Oh, she's such a cutie!

My youngest is 4 and it's been hard to realize I don't have any more babies! But then again, it's also nice to move into a different phase.

Andrea (ace1028) said...

It's hard for me to comment on this post because I have one little one who is five and I don't know where I am ... but happy birthday to your little precious girl. :) And to you!

Heather said...

Sometimes I get all sniffly about not having a baby (my youngest is 6), but I am trying to enjoy what our family is now.

She is the cutest!

Anonymous said...

When you figure it out, please let me know. My youngest are twins age five. I also mourn the baby stage, dont get me wrong I enjoy this age very much but would love another baby. All three of my kids were born through IVF and not sure I can go through it again.

Anonymous said...

I found out I was through having babies at the fertility specialist's office. After two kids without much trouble, the realization that I wouldn't have a third came as a huge, sudden surprise. I mourned that for a long, long time. The passage of time was the only thing that helped. Somewhere along my 40th birthday I found out that a friend was expecting and I thought to myself, "I'm SO glad that's not me!" Then I was so happy, because I realized that I was finally over it. Now I'm looking forward to grandkids, but realizing that I have to have an open mind about that, too. :)
Jenny in NC


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